Why Does It Even Matter To You?

Why Does It Even Matter To You?
Gay Marriage
2-3-10 Brett Foley

That is the question that I am often asked when discussing this issue, or “how will a gay marriage law hurt you?” There are several reasons I can think of, but this a gathering of my thoughts on this subject.

I believe in the importance of the family unit. To me the family unit starts with a husband and a wife. If and when they decide to have children they will become the father and mother. A child needs both a father and a mother to raise them, teach them, love them, show them right from wrong (instill morals / spirituality) by their examples. A father teaches a son to be a good man, a mother teaches a daughter to be a good woman. Contrary to what feminists would have us believe this is not the same thing – there are major differences between men (fathers) and women (mothers). In gay marriage (with children) the child or children will be denied either a father in a lesbian marriage, or a mother in a homosexual marriage. A mother cannot be replaced with a man and a father cannot be replaced with a woman without there being a huge void of inadequacy. I understand that a similar void happens in heterosexual marriages with divorces, or a death of one spouse, but the child will suffer in all of these examples – why do it on purpose? Our society was much better when intact families were the norm, before divorce became more commonplace, before premarital sex and cohabitation became more and more acceptable. Both of these have led to a dramatic rise in single motherhood and abortions, which have dramatically hurt our society both spiritually and financially. Most of the woes that our society suffers today can be traced quickly back to the breakdown of our intact family units, and the acceptance of gay marriage will just lead to more such breakdowns.

To make gay marriages legal in our society, it will have the effect of legitimizing them as normal behavior, as a possible option for anyone. According to the Bible, living a gay lifestyle that includes sexual relations is a sin. To lead a sinful lifestyle (to sin without repentance) will lead to eternal damnation because the only way to eternal life is to follow Jesus Christ’s teachings and you cannot do this while leading a sinful life. We are all sinners, but to sin on purpose repeatedly shows a high degree of disconnect to a leading a Christian life. There is no compromising the Bible so to legitimize gay marriages always leads to the loss of religious freedom. Churches are often forced by law to sanction or perform gay marriages within their church or be punished with fines or possibly losing tax-exempt status. Churches are not supported by our government or tax-payers so they rely on tithes from their membership. To be taxed while receiving no services or benefits from these taxes is beyond unfair, it is governmental theft. Landlords could be forced to rent to gay couples against their will. Children will be taught in our public schools that gay relationships are an option for them, that they are normal. They will not be taught that its sinful behavior and the more widespread it becomes it (along with abortions) will severely affect the demographics of our country in a negative way, possibly toward eventual extinction. As is always the case in public schools our children will only learn the secular viewpoint and not the spiritual one. More loss of religious freedom will always be the result.

We are often told that gays cannot help being gay, and therefore it is bigoted and discriminatory not to allow them to legally marry. If they cannot help being gay then why are there many examples of people living as heterosexuals for large portion of their lives, and then later becoming gay, sometimes because they were often treated poorly by the opposite sex. If they cannot help it why are there many examples of those who thought they were gay becoming heterosexual? I believe we do have a choice because it is a behavior rather than an identity. The main difference between man and animals are we have more control over our animal instincts and urges. We have both willpower and freewill. It is up to us how much control we have over ourselves. For someone to state that they cannot help being gay is like someone saying they can’t help being a pervert, or an alcoholic, or a sex or pornography addict, or a thief. These can be hard behaviors for some to overcome, but people do overcome them when they have the will to do so. It comes down to that age old question – do you want to be good or do you want to be evil? Which one will you allow to have control of your being? At some point you would think the more bad behaviors that become acceptable by our society the closer we get to the concept of “anything goes” which leads to complete chaos.

Groups who are fighting for gay marriage laws often state that it’s a civil rights issue, comparable to what the blacks fought for in our country especially in the 1960’s. This is absurd simply because none of us have any control over what race we are, but there is no excuse that we can’t control our own behaviors. Gays are not being discriminated against because they are not being denied anything that anyone else is not. They can marry just like heterosexual couples can.

Another question I have been asked on this subject is what would I do if one of my children confessed to me that they are gay? Well - what would Jesus do? Jesus loves us sinners, he loves me and I’m a sinner. I will always love our children unconditionally, but I would be disappointed and I would pray for them to change. I would never disown them. I would simply love the sinner but hate the sin. To disown them would be against Jesus’ teachings, it would be against what I feel in my heart, and it would make our child more defiant and less likely to ever possibly change because I would be setting a bad example for them. I would try to see things from their point of view, not to agree with them, but maybe so I could better understand them.

I have read articles about how some who are involved in the gay marriage legalization movement are not going to stop or be content with just legalized gay marriage. Next will be possibly polygamy or maybe group marriage legalizations. Maybe it would extend to child molestation by adults becoming legal. A perversion is a perversion – it’s just a matter of if and where society chooses to draw the line as to what behaviors are acceptable. Just because something is accepted or commonplace doesn't make it right. Abortions break a serious commandment from God "thou shall not kill", but that doesn't keep it from being accepted by many in our society. I believe that during the end times most people’s morals will be bankrupt enough to the point of “anything goes”.

So these are my thought as to why it does matter to me. Some will disagree and that’s OK – I never claimed to be speaking for you - I am speaking for myself.

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